“A jealous girlfriend/boyfriend is a faithful girlfriend/boyfriend. If she/he doesn’t get jealous when someone has your attention, it’s because someone has hers/his.”
I call this the ‘jealousy myth’ and have a huge huge huge problem with this statement. The hugest of problems. Huge. So huge.
Because what it is saying is:
-Jealousy is good.
-Jealousy means faithful.
-If they’re not jealous then they’re cheating on you and don’t care about you.
No. No. Just….no.
Jealousy is not a good thing. Never ever ever ever is it ever ever ever a good thing. Let’s process this: JEALOUSY NO GOOD.
(Interlude: In the ‘jealousy’ family there is a little sister which is a jealousy which is good- it is feeling the slightest bit envious of someone over something but it is a respectful envy, a I-want-to-be-like-that/ I-want-to-have-that envy which could be a good thing if the person who’s jealous is trying to be better but it is usually not considered ‘jealousy’ per se, and anyway, it doesn’t apply in this particular situation. So jealousy is bad. K? K.)
Jealousy will sour things. It will cause problems. It will cause rifts. You know what jealousy means? It means someone is unsatisfied, and it means there is a lack of trust and true connection. That is what it means.
Of course, we’re humans, and every once in a while someone may feel the slightest bit jealous- and curious?- if their significant other is talking to someone else but the point is to NOT go overboard and overemotional and HATE HATE HATE YOU TALKED TO HIM/HER OMG because that’s over-possessiveness and not healthy.
And if you love someone truly, then you’d want them to be happy, right? So if they’re happier elsewhere… sigh. Then perhaps it’s for the best? Or talk to them. Talk. Communicate? (But if they’re actually cheating with you, and lying about it, then ditch them, you deserve better. I know some couples don’t care but for me, if someone lies, that’s- no. That is a violation of trust, and no.) But for goodness’s sake don’t assume things and jump to conclusions.
But anyway, I just wanted to say that jealousy does not equal being faithful or all that.